Assalam alaykom.

Please don’t get a divorce until you learn what I teach my clients. Before our work together, my clients were frustrated and numbing themselves with food, TV and shopping. They were constantly fighting with their husbands and just about done. Divorce seemed like the best option…except they really didn’t want to break up their family and they wanted the deep love that they knew their marriage was capable of. And they wanted romantic texts blowing up their phone. Because who doesn’t? :)

When my marriage was on the brink of divorce, I looked everywhere for help. Read the books. Hired the professionals… and yet, I couldn’t think of a single reason to stay in this marriage…except a voice deep down that said:

Maybe there’s hope. He’s a great guy. You loved him long ago. He’s got good qualities. And you really don’t want to divorce. But you also, don’t want to live like this. But maybe there’s hope?

I’m so grateful to Allah that I believed in that hope and listened to that voice. Maybe you’re like where I was and:

You find yourself wondering: “what was I thinking when I married this man?” You feel alone and your relationship is bringing you to tears too often these days.

You want a marriage that is filled with connection and laughter, romance and fun, not just the day to day routine surface interactions you have now.

You want support with all the things you’re juggling. You want deep love, to feel appreciated and to communicate better.

But these days? You wondering if divorce is the best option because it just seems like too much work to get your marriage to where you want it to be.

Please know you’re not alone. And it doesn’t have to continue like this. Look at this text from one of my client’s husbands after ONE month of working together. My clients regularly share victories like this (as I jump for joy, screaming, thanking God and spill my tea reading them)

This text is from my client’s husband. They were considering divorce after 12 years of marriage. The problems got so bad that he moved out. During that time, they hired a counselor, googled, read and communicated their hearts out. Nothing helped. One month of teaching her coaching with me and learning how to say No and disagree with love. This is what he sent her. Did you hear that? She disagreed, said no to him several times throughout the month and yet he was falling madly back in love with her. Eeek! This work is magnificent!

If you want to have a great marriage and have hope that it can work, you’re in the right place and I’m right here with you the whole way.